Personal

Decision and Announcement

Recently a lot about my concept of Kibbe has changed… even though I am not particularly thrilled about how things have turned out, I don’t give up so easily.

However, I feel with my recent posts I just have added to the extreme amount of online resources that are very far from what the kibbe system actually is supposed to be and they also contain outdated information from the book. So I have started building a new blog that will first deal with my journey trough Kibbe’s assignments and then I will focus on helping others figure it out. However, I don’t feel WordPress is the best option for that. It has some great features but I’m missing the customization I get with other blogs… I will post the new address once I have everything set up. Until then stay tuned!

Kibbegory, Personal

If you’re following my blog, you’re probably wondering why I haven’t been posting a lot recently. The reason for that is that I feel slightly disillusioned with Kibbe at this point.

I have spent so much time reading the book over and over, researching online and everything. I was finally at a point where I thought I had figured it out and then I stumbled onto the strictly kibbe facebook group. David posts in this community from time to time and everything he says seems to contradict the book and online resources and I feel like I’m back to the start. I have no clue where to go from here… I don’t even know if I am a theatrical romantic. After everything I’ve read, I could be any of the types.

Things that I recently learned:

  • Kibbe’s system is not about your lines  and has only to do with your essence
  • you cannot be typed on the internet based on photos
  • there are no certain bodily features that always appear in a certain type (e.g. waspish waist for TR)
  • items of clothing cannot be typed and cannot be used for testing your type
  • you cannot type yourself by only using the quiz
  • individual features like nose, shoulder or hip shape cannot be used to determine your type
  • ratios and measurements are not guiding you to your type

So what is guiding you to your type, besides a personal appointment with David Kibbe? I don’t know. There are exercises and stuff posted by him in the group to help you, but his writing style is just a pain and the posts are so ethereal and hardly contain any information. I’m a very logical person. I like categories and on point descriptions. I just can’t work with the stuff he is posting, because it means nothing to me. I feel like I spent several years figuring out this system completely in vain. And that I have no clue, what to do know. I felt so comfortable working on my TR image and now I’m just back to the start. I’m not sure which type I am. It’s even worse now, as I now even consider dramatic or classic. As an example, Mila Kunis is usually typed as a soft natural when you look her up online. But she is a kibbe verified Theatrical Romantic. Look at her next to me. Are there any similarities? If there are I don’t see them. Mila Kunis looks nothing like what I imagined a TR would look like…

But what does a TR look like according to Kibbe?

“utterly feminine and shimmering physical beauty, along with a very strong and defined sense of self and purpose”

Do I look like that? Mila Kunis must look like that, but I can’t even begin to picture that description…

Kibbegory

Exploring Kibbe: the Book and Quiz

It’s true the book is outdated, and you definitely need to update the recommendations when following the given advice. But what is more important is that both, the book and the quiz are just tools. In fact a lot of the information you find is interpreted in a way that is far from what Kibbe meant. I am guilty of that myself. So please take everything on this Blog with a grain of Salt. Kibbe specifically said that no garment/accessory is actually one type. It all depends on how you style it.

I have spent some time reading through the strictly Kibbe group on Facebook. Especially the exercises and the comments made by David/Susan. It’s eye opening, but also can be frustrating. I recommend you work through these yourself even if you don’t plan on posting in the group. I’m not a group poster myself.

That said I am still using the guidelines published in the book. And there is a good reason for that. I may not be a Theatrical Romantic and nobody might be able to answer that but David Kibbe himself, but I enjoy the style. It is very much aligned with who I am and who I want to be seen as. It’s more about dressing for what you want to achieve than dressing strictly by the book.

Dressing in my interpretation of TR has had an amazing effect on me and my life. I seem far more approachable and warm than I did before. In fact before I started dressing this way people sometimes told me, I seemed unfriendly, cold and even slightly scary. I was not approachable and I realized I did that, because I wanted to keep people out of my life. I was not approachable. Now complete strangers will start talking to me. Ask for directions, make small talk and I generally feel they want to be in my presence. As an example just recently a bus driver looked at me when I entered the bus and just said: You’re really pretty. This was a woman I had never met before but she still felt the need to tell me. And I think that is what a successful metamorphosis does to you. People will start to see your inner sparkle and light.

Read the book, read the Facebook group. Use the book as a tool, dress like the vision you have of yourself and good things will happen.

Fashion

Why is shopping so hard now that I know my Kibbegory?

You might feel that knowing your Kibbegory makes shopping harder / more complicated etc. But is it really?

Shopping now generally takes more time, because finding pieces working for myself can be difficult. That much is true. But there is a simple reason for that. Most models are Flamboyant Naturals, Dramatics, Naturals or Soft Dramatics. Designers have gotten used to creating shapes and lines in fashion, which are specifically flattering for these types. If you are not one of these types, finding fashion choices flattering for you is slightly harder, but you are also rewarded with a better fit, look and feel if you invest the extra time.

Now that you know your type, you can easily walk by the majority of clothes and don’t even have to try them on. In fact, since I’ve discovered my Kibbegory I almost shop exclusively online. Browsing the web is much faster than browsing in stores.

Kibbe might make it harder for you, but it also depends on your style. You can decide to be a TR who only wears purple items with a witchy aura. But the more unique your style is the longer it will take you to find pieces.

Your wardrobe might seem sparse at first, however shopping according to Kibbe, all of the items you own will be ones you love and will like to wear.

For example, take this jacket available at H&M:

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I instantly fell in love with it when I saw. In fact, it has several characteristics perfectly fitting for a TR. It’ short, it’s made of bouclé and it’s bejeweled, but is it wearable for me? No. There is no waist definition and the overall shape is too boxy. Even though I like it, if I bought it, I probably wouldn’t be wearing it very often, as it’d be unflattering on me. And I don’t see an easy way to make the necessary adjustments to the shape.

Overall shopping might take more time and sometimes I’m sad that I “can’t buy” certain items, but shopping to my style is so much more rewarding.

Kibbegory

Exploring Kibbe – Yin vs. Yang

When you start working with the Kibbe system you might be wondering why there are two types of yang (Dramatic and Natural) and only one type of yin. Actually, that isn’t the case. Just like there is sharp and blunt yang, there also is sharp and blunt yin. Blunt yin is the typical Romantic yin. You’ll notice Kibbe defines this yin as softly wide and rounded. But where is the sharp yin? It’s slightly hidden because it is strictly a Theatrical Romantic thing. TRs are not their own group, but imo they should be.

This would give a more balanced scale where Dramatic and Natural are on the yang side, while Romantic and Theatrical Romantic are on the yin side with classic and gamine resting between them.

However, there is a good reason why TR is not a base type. Sharp yin is never an undercurrent like D, N and R are. All soft types get added blunt yin. So TR is kinda special being the only sharp yin type. Don’t get me wrong the Soft Dramatic has sharpness and a yin undercurrent, but that sharpness comes from their Dramatic base and not their Romantic undercurrent.

In my opinion, the groups are linked to the quiz answers as follows:

A = sharp yang (Dramatic)

B = blunt yang (Natural)

C = balanced (Classic)

D = sharp yin (Theatrical)

E = blunt yin (Romantic)

Lots of d) answers are a pretty strong hint that you are a TR. However, depending on your other answers you could also be a different kind of soft. Soft gamine or soft classic are quite likely.

I hope this helps you come a bit closer to finding your Kibbegory.