Kibbegory, Personal

If you’re following my blog, you’re probably wondering why I haven’t been posting a lot recently. The reason for that is that I feel slightly disillusioned with Kibbe at this point.

I have spent so much time reading the book over and over, researching online and everything. I was finally at a point where I thought I had figured it out and then I stumbled onto the strictly kibbe facebook group. David posts in this community from time to time and everything he says seems to contradict the book and online resources and I feel like I’m back to the start. I have no clue where to go from here… I don’t even know if I am a theatrical romantic. After everything I’ve read, I could be any of the types.

Things that I recently learned:

  • Kibbe’s system is not about your lines  and has only to do with your essence
  • you cannot be typed on the internet based on photos
  • there are no certain bodily features that always appear in a certain type (e.g. waspish waist for TR)
  • items of clothing cannot be typed and cannot be used for testing your type
  • you cannot type yourself by only using the quiz
  • individual features like nose, shoulder or hip shape cannot be used to determine your type
  • ratios and measurements are not guiding you to your type

So what is guiding you to your type, besides a personal appointment with David Kibbe? I don’t know. There are exercises and stuff posted by him in the group to help you, but his writing style is just a pain and the posts are so ethereal and hardly contain any information. I’m a very logical person. I like categories and on point descriptions. I just can’t work with the stuff he is posting, because it means nothing to me. I feel like I spent several years figuring out this system completely in vain. And that I have no clue, what to do know. I felt so comfortable working on my TR image and now I’m just back to the start. I’m not sure which type I am. It’s even worse now, as I now even consider dramatic or classic. As an example, Mila Kunis is usually typed as a soft natural when you look her up online. But she is a kibbe verified Theatrical Romantic. Look at her next to me. Are there any similarities? If there are I don’t see them. Mila Kunis looks nothing like what I imagined a TR would look like…

But what does a TR look like according to Kibbe?

“utterly feminine and shimmering physical beauty, along with a very strong and defined sense of self and purpose”

Do I look like that? Mila Kunis must look like that, but I can’t even begin to picture that description…


Exploring Kibbe: the Book and Quiz

It’s true the book is outdated, and you definitely need to update the recommendations when following the given advice. But what is more important is that both, the book and the quiz are just tools. In fact a lot of the information you find is interpreted in a way that is far from what Kibbe meant. I am guilty of that myself. So please take everything on this Blog with a grain of Salt. Kibbe specifically said that no garment/accessory is actually one type. It all depends on how you style it.

I have spent some time reading through the strictly Kibbe group on Facebook. Especially the exercises and the comments made by David/Susan. It’s eye opening, but also can be frustrating. I recommend you work through these yourself even if you don’t plan on posting in the group. I’m not a group poster myself.

That said I am still using the guidelines published in the book. And there is a good reason for that. I may not be a Theatrical Romantic and nobody might be able to answer that but David Kibbe himself, but I enjoy the style. It is very much aligned with who I am and who I want to be seen as. It’s more about dressing for what you want to achieve than dressing strictly by the book.

Dressing in my interpretation of TR has had an amazing effect on me and my life. I seem far more approachable and warm than I did before. In fact before I started dressing this way people sometimes told me, I seemed unfriendly, cold and even slightly scary. I was not approachable and I realized I did that, because I wanted to keep people out of my life. I was not approachable. Now complete strangers will start talking to me. Ask for directions, make small talk and I generally feel they want to be in my presence. As an example just recently a bus driver looked at me when I entered the bus and just said: You’re really pretty. This was a woman I had never met before but she still felt the need to tell me. And I think that is what a successful metamorphosis does to you. People will start to see your inner sparkle and light.

Read the book, read the Facebook group. Use the book as a tool, dress like the vision you have of yourself and good things will happen.


Exploring Kibbe – Yin vs. Yang

When you start working with the Kibbe system you might be wondering why there are two types of yang (Dramatic and Natural) and only one type of yin. Actually, that isn’t the case. Just like there is sharp and blunt yang, there also is sharp and blunt yin. Blunt yin is the typical Romantic yin. You’ll notice Kibbe defines this yin as softly wide and rounded. But where is the sharp yin? It’s slightly hidden because it is strictly a Theatrical Romantic thing. TRs are not their own group, but imo they should be.

This would give a more balanced scale where Dramatic and Natural are on the yang side, while Romantic and Theatrical Romantic are on the yin side with classic and gamine resting between them.

However, there is a good reason why TR is not a base type. Sharp yin is never an undercurrent like D, N and R are. All soft types get added blunt yin. So TR is kinda special being the only sharp yin type. Don’t get me wrong the Soft Dramatic has sharpness and a yin undercurrent, but that sharpness comes from their Dramatic base and not their Romantic undercurrent.

In my opinion, the groups are linked to the quiz answers as follows:

A = sharp yang (Dramatic)

B = blunt yang (Natural)

C = balanced (Classic)

D = sharp yin (Theatrical)

E = blunt yin (Romantic)

Lots of d) answers are a pretty strong hint that you are a TR. However, depending on your other answers you could also be a different kind of soft. Soft gamine or soft classic are quite likely.

I hope this helps you come a bit closer to finding your Kibbegory.